I knew what I had set out do do would be hard. I didn’t know it would be this hard.
I’m pretty sure everyone has told me parenting would be harder than I thought. It’s only been nearly four months, and I am exhausted. However, i am taking a bit of a different approach.
Timing rarely works out. I thought I might get married sooner, I thought I would have a large project underway by now on the development side of my business, I thought a building I designed would have started construction almost two and a half years ago (AIT broke ground two weeks ago). However, starting my company and having the freedom to be around my son at this age worked out perfectly well.
I’m his full time keeper, and that is by choice. I got so watch him find his feet for the first time, how he continues, to figure out how his arms work, how he is developing all around. And a lot of it is hilarious.
I know at some point I won’t be able to handle all of it – once he becomes mobile there is no way I can fit my billable hours into the day. I’ll phase in some help when I need it, but for now, he stays with me. I work some from home, bring him up to the office (age has his own mini-me chair), and carry him with me to all of my meetings. The days are carefully timed so I feed him before my outings (so he’s more apt to sleep) – on the flip side I set those times so that it works with his food schedule. It’s just like managing another project on your schedule, except this one has more frequent and urgent needs than the others – and he overrides all priorities.
But , so far, it works. When my wife comes home I make dinner and get a few more hours in. I add hours in here and there on the weekends (although she doesn’t really appreciate that). Oh yeah – and I moved my office, so there are boxes everywhere in both places I spend the bulk of my time. It’s definitely burning the candle at both ends, and I know it won’t last forever. But at least right now, the timing has worked out correctly.
So this year – call this a resolution or not – I’ve decided to take a photo of the week. There are a few Facebook groups to do this, and I think I’ll pick one of them for prompts, but this week several of them didn’t have one… So I’ll start this year with the crazy holiday lights of Highland Park Village in Dallas. I thought it might be a nice way to close out the season.
Update: after post processing a bunch of images over lunch I’ve already replaced this one with another. Also I did go to Ft. Worth to actually chase a photo of the day, some of those images are posted on Flickr here.
I’ll have to check with The Pope, but I’m pretty sure Christmas falls on the same day every year. And yet, somehow it catches me by surprise. I was vindicated a little by someone telling me that Thanksgiving was late; therefore the whole magical time between Thanksgiving and Christmas was cut off by an entire week, so that’s something, at least.
However, it seems like every year lately, I have that “oh crap, Christmas is next week” moment. This year I’m flying solo Christmas morning, due to a half planned trip that fell through and, well, a lot of work.
So I had plans. I was going to get a tree and rebuild my Christmas decoration stash, which was lost in a mixup with an ex girlfriend years ago. Oh, such plans they were, and that’s what they stayed. My tree situation, as of Christmas eve, was rather bleak:
This 2014 Christmas Tree is Brought to you by Artimide and a Gensler Christmas ornament from 2001, supported by first edition Ayn Rand novels. I won’t try to guide you through that symbolism.
I’ll blame the mid December trip to London, but it’s still pretty weak – the tree would have rightly survived through not even a week of being gone. There’s all of the work that I can’t ignore – this year has been a crazy warm-up for what looks like is coming for next – but I’m a little sad I didn’t get a tree (I’m into getting the real ones). Nevertheless, this little last minute setup seems right for this year. And what was intended as a full day of solo reflection has become busy at the last minute, which is a nice surprise.
This year has turned out a little differently than I had expected, and in mostly good ways. Over the past year I have started to enjoy practicing architecture again, and somehow I have already achieved my stretch goal for top line revenue on the design side of my business for 2015, which will help pave the way for other goals much sooner than I had anticipated.
I went with clients so this was my first overseas business trip. I also got to enjoy lunch with a colleague from the Dallas office of Gensler, who happened to be there for a project as well. We did a lot of walking tours, looked at architecture, and I took a lot of photos. I haven’t spent just a ton of time with my camera (Nikon D80) since I bought it – I upgraded to get some good shots of my projects, and that’s really all I have used it for. I have gone on a few outings here and there to try to learn it more, but this time I spent several days taking photographs in different situations and lighting. Looking back at the photos and processing them, I observed that I actually got better with the camera as the trip went on. I still want to take a photography class, but my schedule for the most part is packed.
Another thing I noticed is that a lot of my shots with this new camera typically look like ass before I process them. I don’t know if it is because I am shooting in RAW or what, but they seemed to look pretty washed out – particularly shots in overcast lighting (yes, I’m setting my white balance… well, now I am). My old D80 seemed to take better snapshots . A little adjustment in Lightroom made everything OK, but before I got to them I thought that I was a lot worse than I guess I actually am. However while I did lot of adjustments in Lightroom, I felt I was cheating. Whatever, it worked – at lest to me it did.
Some more pictures from the trip can be seen here on my Flickr feed.
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