Sometimes I need to take my own advice.
I have been in a couple of programs where I dish out advice. Sometimes when I say it, people look at me like a freaking genius. Maybe its just the way I present it, but maybe there is some wisdom in there.
The thing is… I don’t live it myself sometimes.
In particular, I need to simplify my life a bit. Really, it shouldn’t be too complicated. I’m not married. I don’t have kids. On the brink of starting my own full on, by myself business, I became an employee. Everything should be pretty simple.
But, of course, it isn’t.
There is only so much time in a day. On top of that, one only has so much evergy. At the end of it, you need to allocate yourself to what you think is important.
So what I did one day was map out my life with a mind mapper. This one was called SimpleMind for iPad and iPhone. I was out at the dogpark when I mapped most of this out.
Its small because frankly, you don’t need to see all of it. Because it todally doesn’t matter, except for the fact that it is a graphical nightmare. At the end of it, its loosely color coded into work (yellow), home (green), health (blue), and wants (red). I just put it all out there.
What I wanted to do was clean out the closet a bit. For instance, running was on there. But so is crossfit and cycling. So, I cut the running. Made crossfit a priority. Cycling… Crap. Still not doing so well on that front. Maybe its time to reevaluate that one.
But, the lesson here is – look at all of the balls in the air. Everyone drops a few. What does that do to you? Well, I don’t know what it does to you. I know what it does to me. It makes me feel guilty and disappointed with myself because I’m not doing it. Which slides you down a hill. But when you face it, decide you aren’t going to do it, and move on, there is some peace with that. Unfortunately, I haven’t done a good enough job. After cleaning the closet, I still can’t get rid of that shirt that looks like it could be worn with spiky hair – hair that has not been that thick on my head since 2005.
I’ve given this talk to a mentee that I have as well as a group of business owners I used to meet with on a regular basis. They looked at me as if I was the burning bush giving them the missing 11th commandment: Thou shalt not focus on so many things you can focus on nothing.
Time to pay attention to that again.