Listen to yourself.

Sometimes I need to take my own advice.

I have been in a couple of programs where I dish out advice.  Sometimes when I say it, people look at me like a freaking genius.  Maybe its just the way I present it, but maybe there is some wisdom in there.

The thing is…  I don’t live it myself sometimes.

In particular, I need to simplify my life a bit.  Really, it shouldn’t be too complicated.  I’m not married.  I don’t have kids.  On the brink of starting my own full on, by myself business, I became an employee.  Everything should be pretty simple.

But, of course, it isn’t.

There is only so much time in a day.  On top of that, one only has so much evergy.  At the end of it, you need to allocate yourself to what you think is important.

So what I did one day was map out my life with a mind mapper.  This one was called SimpleMind for iPad and iPhone.  I was out at the dogpark when I mapped most of this out.

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Its small because frankly, you don’t need to see all of it. Because it todally doesn’t matter, except for the fact that it is a graphical nightmare.  At the end of it, its loosely color coded into work (yellow), home (green), health (blue), and wants (red).  I just put it all out there.

What I wanted to do was clean out the closet a bit.  For instance, running was on there.  But so is crossfit and cycling.  So, I cut the running.  Made crossfit a priority.  Cycling… Crap.  Still not doing so well on that front.  Maybe its time to reevaluate that one.

But, the lesson here is – look at all of the balls in the air.  Everyone drops a few.  What does that do to you?  Well, I don’t know what it does to you.  I know what it does to me.  It makes me feel guilty and disappointed with myself because I’m not doing it.  Which slides you down a hill.  But when you face it, decide you aren’t going to do it, and move on, there is some peace with that.  Unfortunately, I haven’t done a good enough job.  After cleaning the closet, I still can’t get rid of that shirt that looks like it could be worn with spiky hair – hair that has not been that thick on my head since 2005.

I’ve given this talk to a mentee that I have as well as a group of business owners I used to meet with on a regular basis.  They looked at me as if I was the burning bush giving them the missing 11th commandment: Thou shalt not focus on so many things you can focus on nothing.

Time to pay attention to that again.

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